How to make jerk into a friend?

unfortunately i dont believe that jerks can be transformed into friends , at least not magically or as quickly as we would want . and based on my experience , what you need is not the ability to transform him. this is a mive undertaking which may require much time and effort from your part , it is difficult to give even this much effort to those we do like . instead teach yourself to be more understanding and tolerate, there is an obvious need in him to reach out to you. he likes you it seems yet his method of expression is not as you would like . we are all uniquely formed if you can learn to love this trait in others, others may see this trait in you and and learn to love those traits in you that perhaps irritate them